Happy Miloud !

Wishing you all a Happy Miloud !

We are celebrating it tonight as all the imaginable fireworks are lighted -never quite figured out why ?

The Asseda is tomorrow and a public holiday has been confirmed ,yes to eat the asseeeda lol

Muslim Husbands -where are you ????

This was sent to me by a great friend,needless to say that my response was that extreme few Muslim husbands (sorry guys ) I know fit the criteria ...

What do you say ???

Characteristics of a Muslim Husband ;



No one ever thinks about the characteristics of a Muslim husband. It is

always what a wife should do for the husband... and the list never ends

; home management, tutoring, ferrying the kids, caring, cooking,

cleaning, washing, working, you name it, she is doing it. so what about

the brothers?



Our beloved Prophet SAW was not like this. So, why the men of thisUmmah? It

is quite interesting. So I thought I'd share it with you!!!


What a Muslim husband should be like...

1.

Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good.. When was the last

time you went shopping for designer pyjamas? Just like the husband

wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to

dress up for her too. Remember that the Prophet (PBUH) would always

start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest

smells.



2. Use the best names for your wife. Call your wife by the most beloved

names to her, and avoid using names that hurt her feelings.



3. Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily

lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day –

which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something

to 'bug' him.. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that

she does and focus on that.



4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not

comment! This is one of the ways the Prophet (PBUH) used when he would

see something inappropriate from his wives (R.A). It's a technique that

few Muslim men have mastered.



5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often..

Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah.


Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also

those Ahadith when the Prophet (PBUH) would kiss his wife before

leaving for Salaah, even when he was fasting.



6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take

for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home

and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only

acknowledgment she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the

soup. Don't let that be; thank her!



7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made

her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what

gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask

her and work on repeating those times in your life.



8. Don't belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look

down upon the requests of their wives. The Prophet (PBUH) set the

example for us in an incident when Safiyyah (R.A) was crying because,

as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears,

comforted her and brought her the camel.



9. Be humorous and play games with your wife. Look at how the Prophet

(PBUH) would race with his wife Aisha (R.A) in the desert. When was the

last time you did something like that?



10. Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger (PBUH): 'The best of

you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best

amongst you to my family.' Try to be the best!



In conclusion : Never forget to make Dua to Allah - Ta'ala to make your marriage

successful. And Allah Ta'ala knows the best!!

Happy Valentine's Day !

Happy Valentine's Day!
If you love someone because you think they are really gorgeous, then its not love…
it's “infatuation"

If you love someone because you think you shouldn’t leave them, or others tell you not to; then it’s not love…its “compromise”

If you love someone because you cannot live without their touch; then its not love…
It’s “lust”

If you love someone because you share everything with them; then it’s not love…..
Its “friendship “

If you love someone because you have been kissed by them; then it’s not love….
It’s “inferiority complex”

If you love someone because you cannot live without them; then its not love…….Its “charity”

But if you feel the pain of the other person more than them, even when they’re stable and you cry for them….that’s “love”

If you get attracted to other people but remain faithful without any regrets… that’s “love”

If you let your loved one go, knowing he has to go,but doesn’t want to…..that’s “love”

Marriage bliss, woes and plural chit chat ...

Why does one get married? Is it because they want to commit to a partnership of a lifetime, have kids and live happily ever after, like endings of fairytales with the chosen so called soul mate? Or is it because of religious ,family stress or friends getting themselves gotten hooked so we tend to go forward with the concept ie all stuck with the marriage bliss where in actual its woes which we keep well hidden in our secret world of self denial.
Ask any woman if she’s happy being married and the reply would be that of yes !Not showing the hell she’s in and wanting who’s asking especially if single, to get into the darn bliss of marriage !
Ask a man and you’d get the look of …… you know he’d like to kick the person in the a.. for having told him to go through with it !

Marriage Bliss no longer exists –
Maybe we should blame the ozone. Weather changes do affect people’s attitude, no way can we deny the fact. When one is cold ,obviously having sex would take extra effort ,\and if hot a cooling system would have to be incorporated ,which by the time is efficient the couple in question, may have lost interest altogether !
Now ,if we were to explain affairs and how couples actually handle that , a complete story diverges into the following that of, interest ,high emotions ,being positive in all aspects, let alone of ones looks and care free attitude. Is the sinning affect to be responsible?Obviously depending on different cultures; but even with the acceptance of living without a marriage license in the west ,or what is called an open relationship ,relationship ie with one partner ,observing the couple with close
We no longer see people who’ve been married for many years and still remain happy. My idea is that the ones who do stay in a long term relationship of so called marriage bliss is that they have throughout the years developed either hearing or visual loss, or maybe both ie they can see the existence of their partner in their lives ,but not actually see or hear them.! All for the better, I think, for what can one portray every single day ,that would be of interest t his /her partner ? Ahhh we should portray and forget the rest? Should a married couple just be interested in their world and leave others out, pleasing themselves only falling into another trap and become self centered ignorants !
Here plural wives may just come in handy ….
Women would compete with their sisters in marriage with the one husband they all share. At least she knows where he is and what he’s up to !
As for the sisterhood of wives,who must be on accord to all household chores and the bringing up of children if any….
Another thing is the pleasure of awaiting the turn ie a wife will no longer have the ususal headaches ,bet many a gent will have loved this last remark of mine as I can only imagine !

So all in all it really depends what one is looking for in a marriage : a fantasy , a solution to loneliness, a partnership , a soul mate ( last is usually either unobtainable ,or taken )family with male female ,or same sex family ,or plural ….
Yes , many families now have either two daddies or two mommies or many of mommy’s sisters’ in a marriage. The most important fact lies not in what kind of sexual habits the couple exercise but what they offer as a family.Who is to say that marriages of this sort unlike the norm wont be a success ?
It remains to be seen…………