Demolish- demolishing-demolished and then what ???

Being used to sniffing fresh sea air ,well if you could call it fresh even though it has the everlasting smell of sewage as a compliment for those who live close to beach area in Hai Alandulus !

In the last two days our beach area has been partially been concreted with the addition of a wall of libyan china style great wall as the joke is said . If that wasnt enough ,now something else is cooking and no one knows what ;leaving all to beleive to know the latest when actually this top secretive is an unknown fact to even those working on the project....

Some have said :
1)its the 100 meter issue being revised -so all soil must be taken away
2)a new corniche with beautiful gardens so old soil must taken and fresh soil brought
3) a new beach road will be put in service
4) anew great sewage system
and the list can go on

See for yourself and give it a try to figure out what lies in the furture of the Hai Alandulus Beaches ....

Happy Miloud !

Wishing you all a Happy Miloud !

We are celebrating it tonight as all the imaginable fireworks are lighted -never quite figured out why ?

The Asseda is tomorrow and a public holiday has been confirmed ,yes to eat the asseeeda lol

Muslim Husbands -where are you ????

This was sent to me by a great friend,needless to say that my response was that extreme few Muslim husbands (sorry guys ) I know fit the criteria ...

What do you say ???

Characteristics of a Muslim Husband ;



No one ever thinks about the characteristics of a Muslim husband. It is

always what a wife should do for the husband... and the list never ends

; home management, tutoring, ferrying the kids, caring, cooking,

cleaning, washing, working, you name it, she is doing it. so what about

the brothers?



Our beloved Prophet SAW was not like this. So, why the men of thisUmmah? It

is quite interesting. So I thought I'd share it with you!!!


What a Muslim husband should be like...

1.

Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good.. When was the last

time you went shopping for designer pyjamas? Just like the husband

wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to

dress up for her too. Remember that the Prophet (PBUH) would always

start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest

smells.



2. Use the best names for your wife. Call your wife by the most beloved

names to her, and avoid using names that hurt her feelings.



3. Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily

lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day –

which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something

to 'bug' him.. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that

she does and focus on that.



4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not

comment! This is one of the ways the Prophet (PBUH) used when he would

see something inappropriate from his wives (R.A). It's a technique that

few Muslim men have mastered.



5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often..

Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah.


Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also

those Ahadith when the Prophet (PBUH) would kiss his wife before

leaving for Salaah, even when he was fasting.



6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take

for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home

and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only

acknowledgment she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the

soup. Don't let that be; thank her!



7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made

her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what

gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask

her and work on repeating those times in your life.



8. Don't belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look

down upon the requests of their wives. The Prophet (PBUH) set the

example for us in an incident when Safiyyah (R.A) was crying because,

as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears,

comforted her and brought her the camel.



9. Be humorous and play games with your wife. Look at how the Prophet

(PBUH) would race with his wife Aisha (R.A) in the desert. When was the

last time you did something like that?



10. Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger (PBUH): 'The best of

you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best

amongst you to my family.' Try to be the best!



In conclusion : Never forget to make Dua to Allah - Ta'ala to make your marriage

successful. And Allah Ta'ala knows the best!!

Happy Valentine's Day !

Happy Valentine's Day!
If you love someone because you think they are really gorgeous, then its not love…
it's “infatuation"

If you love someone because you think you shouldn’t leave them, or others tell you not to; then it’s not love…its “compromise”

If you love someone because you cannot live without their touch; then its not love…
It’s “lust”

If you love someone because you share everything with them; then it’s not love…..
Its “friendship “

If you love someone because you have been kissed by them; then it’s not love….
It’s “inferiority complex”

If you love someone because you cannot live without them; then its not love…….Its “charity”

But if you feel the pain of the other person more than them, even when they’re stable and you cry for them….that’s “love”

If you get attracted to other people but remain faithful without any regrets… that’s “love”

If you let your loved one go, knowing he has to go,but doesn’t want to…..that’s “love”

Marriage bliss, woes and plural chit chat ...

Why does one get married? Is it because they want to commit to a partnership of a lifetime, have kids and live happily ever after, like endings of fairytales with the chosen so called soul mate? Or is it because of religious ,family stress or friends getting themselves gotten hooked so we tend to go forward with the concept ie all stuck with the marriage bliss where in actual its woes which we keep well hidden in our secret world of self denial.
Ask any woman if she’s happy being married and the reply would be that of yes !Not showing the hell she’s in and wanting who’s asking especially if single, to get into the darn bliss of marriage !
Ask a man and you’d get the look of …… you know he’d like to kick the person in the a.. for having told him to go through with it !

Marriage Bliss no longer exists –
Maybe we should blame the ozone. Weather changes do affect people’s attitude, no way can we deny the fact. When one is cold ,obviously having sex would take extra effort ,\and if hot a cooling system would have to be incorporated ,which by the time is efficient the couple in question, may have lost interest altogether !
Now ,if we were to explain affairs and how couples actually handle that , a complete story diverges into the following that of, interest ,high emotions ,being positive in all aspects, let alone of ones looks and care free attitude. Is the sinning affect to be responsible?Obviously depending on different cultures; but even with the acceptance of living without a marriage license in the west ,or what is called an open relationship ,relationship ie with one partner ,observing the couple with close
We no longer see people who’ve been married for many years and still remain happy. My idea is that the ones who do stay in a long term relationship of so called marriage bliss is that they have throughout the years developed either hearing or visual loss, or maybe both ie they can see the existence of their partner in their lives ,but not actually see or hear them.! All for the better, I think, for what can one portray every single day ,that would be of interest t his /her partner ? Ahhh we should portray and forget the rest? Should a married couple just be interested in their world and leave others out, pleasing themselves only falling into another trap and become self centered ignorants !
Here plural wives may just come in handy ….
Women would compete with their sisters in marriage with the one husband they all share. At least she knows where he is and what he’s up to !
As for the sisterhood of wives,who must be on accord to all household chores and the bringing up of children if any….
Another thing is the pleasure of awaiting the turn ie a wife will no longer have the ususal headaches ,bet many a gent will have loved this last remark of mine as I can only imagine !

So all in all it really depends what one is looking for in a marriage : a fantasy , a solution to loneliness, a partnership , a soul mate ( last is usually either unobtainable ,or taken )family with male female ,or same sex family ,or plural ….
Yes , many families now have either two daddies or two mommies or many of mommy’s sisters’ in a marriage. The most important fact lies not in what kind of sexual habits the couple exercise but what they offer as a family.Who is to say that marriages of this sort unlike the norm wont be a success ?
It remains to be seen…………

Lumps ,bumps and miracle creams……..

We ladies always seem to be dissatisfied with our bodies, no matter what everybody tells us . I guess it’s a female issue which many men cant seem to understand, for men have it all ;they can have their cake and eat it too unlike us females with our never ending insecurities ,too fat ,too big ,if only and endless list of insecurities need I go on ????I think not, for fear of boring you all to death……

Since losing some weight ,and gaining some back ,them losing again a yo yo pattern though I do see myself feeling better when the battle of the bulges is in play and the conquest is in order and my palate is in control.

Cellulite is the most common factor, for us ladies as it seems to pile on before you know it !the only way of removing is by changing our eating behavior ,I am not a nutrionist nor do I see myself fit to give advice on the matter but always on the search of a miracle cure I have come to conclude that there simply is no such nonsense.

Going to the gym has been a great effort on my behalf, getting there instead of my usual afternoon siesta as I struggle with my inner friend who tells me to take a nap and not to go to the gym. Upon arriving there the trainer gives me such a treat that from jumping on the step to sweating like crazy and with hold my intention of killing her if she screams one more time stating 10 more pushups..I must admit I do feel way so much better afterwards. She tells me that she’s grown fond of me and enjoys it as I compete and I’m not as young as she, lets say she’s old enough to be my ie if I got married when 14 !

At first I struggle with her then I’m at the same level ,which makes her proud so she pushes me further still while the other ladies remain breathless! My inner voice tells me she wants to compete then she’ll get it. Last year I won a car which I then gave away to a nice family in need –I already have a car. I’m not boasting, just stating that I’ve become a good aerobics player. I have a good friend to thank for this, for he encouraged me, sometimes I’d lie to him stating I went when in actual fact I hadn’t. He knew ,how I don’t know ,but Id tell him the truth and get act together ,sometimes even wishing he wasn’t my friend so Id sit on my a.. and dream of becoming thin!! Bless him for keeping up with me ….

Getting back to the lumps and bumps, I meet different women of many nationalities and walks of life at the gym, last was a French lady who had just bought a jar of “miracle cure cream” for her “celluleet”as standing in an exaggerated pose asking:”Are my thighs thinner or what?”

“Why, what have you done?” I ask, instantly suspicious.

“I’ve just had this amazing treatment at the beauty salon. First they plastered my thighs with clay to increase the circulation, then attached these little wires and administered electric shocks through the pads to break down the fat.”

“Michelle, “I said looking at her ,”If you believe nothing else that I say, please believe this: you cannot break down body fat from the outside. You can plaster it with mud, seaweed, or day old rice pudding-nothing will make any difference.”

“Non ,non this cannot be, “says Estelle, her friend . In France we have many such treatments for the celluleet. Surely they must work?”

“if they worked, then everyone would be slim, “I say.”Look at the fat on your hips and thighs it got there because you ate more food than you consumed in energy. That excess food went through a chemical process in your body and was converted into fat.

The only way to lose the fat is to eat less food and do more exercise .This causes a deficit of energy source in your body and some of the fat then goes through a chemical process that turns it into a usable form of energy. You can’t disperse it from the outside.”

“But the beauty therapist said it would rid me of this celluleet, and convinced me it was breaking down the fat.”

“Well she would, wouldn’t she?”I said “When gullible young girls train to be beauty therapists, they’re indoctrinated with three key phrases:”breaks down the fat,””increases circulation, “and “gets rid of the toxins.”They’re made to repeat these phrases several times during each consultation to brainwash the client into believing there’s a connection with weight loss. But there isn’t, I assure you.”

“She did say it would get rid of toxins, “admitted Michelle.”And I thought that as fat is full of toxins, this would help me slim.”

“But fat is not full of toxins, “I say patiently (I hope ). “Your body has an extremely efficient system, blood stream, urine, sweat and so on….This is a continuous process; you don’t need to help it along. If you enjoy it, then by all means do it. But don’t kid yourself that it’s making you slimmer or healthier.”

“Well, I have this cream, “says Estelle pulling a small pot out of her handbag.” It cost me LD120 and it had better rid my celluleet for that price.”

“Well I would read the label carefully I advise. “Maybe it says something about reducing the appearance of cellulite-meaning that it will make your skin smoother, but it certainly won’t make you slimmer. And by the way, a recent study test under laboratory conditions compared samples of fat from the upper arms where the skin is smooth found they were exactly the same composition. So I’m afraid your celluleet is just plain old fat and you wasted LD 120.”

“But I can’t take it back! she whines.

I didnt know my own strength...

Love this song,helps me go on .....

Lost touch with my soul
I had no where to turn
I had no where to go
Lost sight of my dream,
Thought it would be the end of me
I thought I’d never make it through
I had no hope to hold on to,
I thought I would break

I didn’t know my own strength
And I crashed down, and I tumbled
But I did not crumble
I got through all the pain
I didn’t know my own strength
Survived my darkest hour
My faith kept me alive
I picked myself back up
Hold my head up high
I was not built to break
I didn’t know my own strength

Found hope in my heart,
I found the light to life
My way out of the dark
Found all that I need
Here inside of me
I thought I’d never find my way
I thought I’d never lift that weight

I thought I would break

I didn’t know my own strength
And I crashed down, and I tumbled
But I did not crumble
I got through all the pain
I didn’t know my own strength
Survived my darkest hour
My faith kept me alive
I picked myself back up
Hold my head up high
I was not built to break
I didn’t know my own strength

There were so many times I
Wondered how I’d get through the night I
Thought took all I could take

I didn’t know my own strength
And I crashed down, and I tumbled
But I did not crumble
I got through all the pain
I didn’t know my own strength
Survived my darkest hour
My faith kept me alive
I picked myself back up
Hold my head up high
I was not built to break
I didn’t know my own strength

Whitney Houston